1. Write a nice letter. You don’t have to explicitly write
“I love you” in the note, but you can outline the things
you admire about the other person. A lot of people
prefer to write down their feelings because it allows
you time to revise your words so that they’re just
right.
If possible, write your feelings down with a pen and
paper instead of on a computer. Your unique
handwriting adds a personal touch to the letter, and
he or she might like to have a physical object that
represents your feelings.
Before you start, write a small brainstorm of all the
things you like or admire about him or her. Note
close experiences you’ve shared, or things that
remind you of the other person.
Grab a good sheet of paper. If you don’t have
stationary lying around, use copy paper – it will look
neater than note paper.
2. Make eye contact. Whenever you can, meet the
other person’s eyes. Don’t stare after him or her
constantly, but do allow yourself to be caught looking
at his or her face once in a while. When you’ve been
detected, smile a little bit and hold the gaze for
another second before looking away
3. Show your feelings through your actions. Non-
verbal cues can count for a lot, and allow someone to
see how you feel without putting yourself out there
too much. Here are some possibilities:
Smile. The best thing you can do is also the easiest –
throw your loved one a sincere smile whenever you
can. Whenever you do, try to hold his or her eyes for
slightly longer than a second.
Make your body language seem receptive. A side
effect of being nervous around this person might be
that your body language seems closed off or
unapproachable. Try to reverse this by keeping your
arms unfolded, and your arms loose at your sides or
clasped behind your back. Turn your body toward the
other person when you’re talking to them, including
your feet. Incline your head toward them when you
make eye contact.
Don’t worry about blushing. You can’t control when
you blush anyway, but if you find yourself doing it
around him or her, just go with it. In a way, a blush is
a useful signal to the other person letting them know
how you feel – so let it do its work!
Wink. If you can manage it, try to throw him or her a
sly wink every now and then. Don’t do it too often –
no more than once every few days.
4. Try a few light physical touches. Initiating physical
contact with someone lets him or her know you want
more closeness. Start small, by walking or sitting
near the other person. If that goes well, try touching
his or her arm lightly during a conversation. Other
possibilities after that include putting an arm around
the other person’s shoulders, playfully “bumping”
into him or her with the side of your hip, and playing
footsie.
5. Do small favors without a word. Sometimes, the
best favor is one you don’t have to even ask for. If
you know for sure that he or she needs something
done or would appreciate a certain gesture, just do
it. When the other person discovers your deed, just
smile. If you have to make a comment, say “I wanted
to help you” or “You’re welcome.” Don’t make it into a
big discussion – let the action stand alone and
communicate how much you care.
6. Be Romantic: Girls like romantic guys, so be
romantic with your words. Don’t forget to tell her
how beautiful she is and how happy you are each
